What should i do to get my friends life back on track?
August 27th, 2009
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My bff name is lovina. she’s a year older than me. today i get a call and find out she got kicked out. Last week she got home at 2 o’clock in the morning. she was hanging out with people she didn’t even know. we share the same religion and so far she has missed over 10 christian meeting this month. I know she use to work at kohls and a gas station called SheetZ. now she works at SheetZ and she has $7500.00 dollars in car repairs for her 1992 honda accord, $900.00 in her phone bills and $100,000.00 credit card debt. i’m worried about her because she’s getting into trouble and its gonna lead her to end up like her parents. What should i do?
Your friend has serious problems. Have you tried talking to her? Maybe check out some counseling for her–she needs it.
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That is a lot of money she has to work with. I think you and her need to have a SERIOUS talk about this. You sound more mature than she does she’s not making rational decisions what it seems like.
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It’s good that you want to support your friend in making healthy decisions. But remember, she is the one who decides, so all you can do is offer advice and support. She has to make the changes.
If you haven’t sat down and had an honest conversation with her, now may be the perfect opportunity. Rather than listen to her complaints over problems, encourage her to think about the steps (no matter how small) she needs to take the get out of the debt, etc.
If you see a problem with the people she is around, be specific. Don’t just tell her they suck, but give specific examples when you have seen firsthand or straight from her mouth that they hurt her feelings or took advantage of her.
If there is a minister or someone in your religion whom she trusts, you may enlist their help in talking with her and helping her form a plan to make positive changes.
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Nothing, you’re lucky if you can control your own life. You have no power over her life. Sorry, but if religion were the answer she wouldn’t be where she is now! All you can do is be there for her and give advice if she asks, and please don’t make it come back to church, tell her something she can really use!
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your friend is not making the right and healthy decisions. i think you should give her a helping hand and get her on the right track to a healthy a debt free life.
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It’s good that you want to support your friend in making healthy decisions. But remember, she is the one who decides, so all you can do is offer advice and support. She has to make the changes.
If you haven’t sat down and had an honest conversation with her, now may be the perfect opportunity. Rather than listen to her complaints over problems, encourage her to think about the steps (no matter how small) she needs to take the get out of the debt, etc.
Lovina is gonna fall on her butt sooner or later and gonna have to smell the roses. Don’t listen to babe cause that person is not trying to help at all.
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Its good of you to worry about your friend and you have every right to talk to her about your concerns and do what you can to help her. BUT its not your problem and you should not try to ‘save’ her it will only boomerang on you. Stand by her and encourage her to work out her bills and keep working. Listen when she needs a friend and if she can avoid causing chaos in your family maybe give her a place to sleep for a few nights. She got into this mess and she has to get herself out. Be a loving friend but don’t get pulled in too. Counsel her to send money to the phone company and pay the interest on her credit card but set aside enough money to fix her car first. Without the car she has little opportunity to get a second job and with that kind of debt she will be lucky of she can see the light of day in a couple of years. When the car gets fixed she needs to begin putting all she can into the credit card co. and still send a little to the phone company until it is paid and then every dollar she car spare needs to pay that card off and she should never use it again. It sounds like she needs a councilor that can help her but she needs to cut up the card.
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Have an adult daughter with similar problems.
Your friend has serious problems. Have you tried talking to her? Maybe check out some counseling for her–she needs it.
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